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Finding love in the Real World

10 ways to meet people without Tinder

Finding love in the Real World

We all know meeting people isn’t easy as an adult. Look, we get it. There aren’t any dudes standing outside our windows with boom boxes, either. It’s hard, it’s confusing, and there are some SERIOUS weirdoes out there. Tinder seemed like a good idea for a few years there but the creeps seemed to crawl We all know meeting people isn’t easy as an adult. Look, we get it. There aren’t any dudes standing outside our windows with boom boxes, either. It’s hard, it’s confusing, and there are some SERIOUS weirdoes out there. Tinder seemed like a good idea for a few years there but the creeps seemed to crawl in there pretty quick. While online dating has it’s perks, it also makes it pretty easy for people to ghost you or just be straight up ***holes. So what do you turn to when the rest of the options have failed you? Well, here are a few ideas to find you that cutie you’ve been so desperately seeking.in there pretty quick. While online dating has it’s perks, it also makes it pretty easy for people to ghost you or just be straight up ***holes. So what do you turn to when the rest of the options have failed you? Well, here are a few ideas to find you that cutie you’ve been so desperately seeking.

1. Have a regular coffee shop.

It sounds simple, but if you hang at your local regularly, people are going to get to know your face, and you might just find someone asks to join you for coffee one morning. Not to mention you might find yourself a cute barista (just remember not to hit on anyone while they’re working.)!

2. Library/book store

If you’ve got work to do, or a book you’ve been trying to finish, consider taking it to the library or a bookstore where you can sit down and read. Not only are you getting yourself out of the house and into the big wide world, but libraries are a good place to have a nice quiet chat and maybe swap novel suggestions.

3. Join a club

If you’ve been wanting to start a dance class, a sport, or take a new language, just do it! Going out to new things alone is a great way to meet people (remember to always tell a friend where you’re headed, though). Maybe you want to learn something new, or maybe you can find a support group. Places like LGBTQ+ groups, hiking clubs, or even just a book club are all great for making new connections. It’s the ideal situation: A big group to avoid awkward 1 on 1’s, an inherent shared interest, and maybe some new friends along the way.

4. Going to gigs

In the same vain as the coffee shops idea, if you go out to local gigs often, you’ll start to realise you’re seeing the same people a lot of the time. After a while, it’s easy enough to start up a conversation. And as a plus, you already know when you’ll get to see them again. On the flip side, maybe your one and only will end up being part of the band you’re seeing. Who isn’t a sucker for a musician?

5. Go to parties

Now we know what you’re thinking; ‘I can’t just rock up to random people’s parties, guys.’ We know. This is more in the vain of; if you get invited over to a friend of a friend’s house, instead of skipping it to stay at home and watch 27 Dresses (again), just go. Start saying yes to going places that you normally wouldn’t. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, and be open to meeting new people. You never know which mutual friend could be your Prince/Princess Charming!

6. Go to events

Find out what’s going on around you! Is there a suitcase rummage on? Is there a crafts night happening at a local bar? Is there a trivia team you could join? Keep an eye out for fun things that are happening that you could drag a couple of friends to. You’ll probably find that you’re meeting a load of new people by involving yourself in even one new activity. Productivity breeds…love? Something along those lines, anyway.

7. Go door knocking

Look, honestly at this point it’s still a better idea than online dating.

8. Dog parks

This one unfortunately is only for the dog owners out there. Unless you’re desperate enough to swipe a dog in order to find a date. But if you do have a furry little friend, consider heading to dog parks instead of just going for walks. Your pup can make some pals while you scout out the other owners. Also, it’s always handy to know straight away what pets your potential S.O is into. It’s going to be awkward if you get 6 months in and find out they only like cats.

9. Volunteering

Do something nice while you’re looking for love. Take some time out of your week (if you can) to find somewhere to volunteer in your local community. Turn your search for love into a double-act; have a look online and see if you can find somewhere that needs volunteers right now. It could be anything from shelter work to teaching kids to read. Either way, it’s guaranteed that you’ll meet a whole heap of different people from different walks of life.

10. Take some me time

Dating takes time. And as important as finding that one true love may be to you, you’ve got to look after yourself. So take some time to just do the things you love and see what kind of people you attract. Go sit in the botanical gardens. Feed some ducks. Go skating. Who knows! Remember to do what makes you happy first, and see what comes with it. You never know. Love works in mysterious ways…

About the Author

Arion Bereziat

Arion Bereziat

If you ever need to find Arion, she’s probably at home playing board games, or at a local gig in the Valley. Having just turned 20, she's got a passion for creative writing and social equality (shouldn’t we all?). She’s been writing for as long as she can remember, whether it’s a creative, editorial, or argumentative piece. Overall, she just wants to write whatever and whenever she can, and she’s eager to learn along the way.